My Final Chapter For Friendship
Haha..This does not mean that I will not write anything more but I would choose short insights on relationships for you.
Moving On In Relationships
I will try to answer the following questions:
Is moving on always a good thing for you?
How do we stop meeting this friend or group?
Why should we move on?
Is moving on always a good thing for you?
Yes and no.
Yes:
When you have changed for the better but things still remain the same.
You tried to solve the conflict but the other party still choose not to forgive you.
No:
Wanting to find a perfect mate or group to suit your needs and wants
Avoiding the conflict
Refusal to change
There are times that you changed but because of some people who based on their first impression still refuse to change their perception of you, prevent any communication to occur between you and him.
First impression varies:
He is a proud guy.
He is too quiet for his own good.
Your first impression would be also how you treat the person. So beware.
To deal with people who do not forgive you, it is impossible to restore the relationship.
When you talked to him:
Harry: Hi, how are you today?
Larry: Fine! (Stupid guy. Make me lose my wallet still did not apologize.)
Having an attitude of:
I want you to talk to me
I want you to share your things
I want to do this work with me
I want you to help me with this maths question
Many people want others to do this for them while not expecting to do anything for others.
Most people I know are give and takers.
You give them bread and they give you back bread.
You give them nothing and they give you back nothing.
Avoiding the conflict is one of the most common traps that people falls.
Many people avoid the conflicts because of:
Pride (Too proud to admit they are wrong.)
Fear (Afraid of the criticism or the confrontation.)
Doubt (He may not forgive me.)
If these are reasons, my advice for you is go and resolve it.
I do not want to change. You all changed for me.
Refusal to change is simply trying to ask others to change, not you.
Why change? Nothing is wrong with me?
Other people’s opinion does not matter.
Change first.
How do we stop meeting this friend or group?
One of the best ways to move on:
Explain any misunderstanding between you and your friends
Reason: You do not want rumours or gossips of you spreading to your friend or group you are trying to get close to.
Do not get back at anyone
Reason: Simple. They will get back at you.
Having talks with some individuals you are close to
Reason: Misunderstanding may occur if you just leave the group or friend like that. Explain and hope they understand.
Why should we move on?
Staying at a group that you do not like being with is like:
A dove among a group of crows
A pussycat among a group of dogs
A lion among a group of hunters
You will get out of place. The relationship between the groups do not progress but become stagnant. It should be a final option to choose, not of a regular basis. Try leaving a group and joining a group here and there would only create distrust.
You may also lose your close friends.