Chapter 3-Managing Conflicts
Though i guess that I have written some posts about that, but I think that it is something that people needs to know.
I know of some people who think that conflict is just pure bad. But they almost forgot that it was through all those conflicts that they drew closer to each other.
Take for example, family often faces conflict. Conflicts like beating a child for his bad behaviour actually draws the kid closer to the parents. There may be anger or resentment to the parents who hit them but in the end, it was for their own good.
Conflict is caused by:
Differences
Lack of understanding
High expectation
I think I would explain for the high expectation and low expectation. “He is my good friend and he is supposed to know me well.” So what happens if the friend who is supposed to know him well does not apply? Conflict happen.
One of the famous battles I have was with some STs. I am those kinds of people who are the one, think first do later. STs are those kind of people who acts first and think later.(This does not apply to all situations but are quite common.)
My brother was one good example. If you want the Internet, work for it. But for me, I think that it is better to think about the job prospects than to jump into it.
This situation is caused by lack of understanding and differences.
To solve the conflict, it is hard. Someone had to give in or had to confront. But many people avoid the conflict because they are afraid of the consequences. Giving in is hard simply because you are proud.( He is the one who is mostly at fault, not me.)
Confrontation simply does not look pretty because words used in conflicts are quite harsh.