Wednesday, September 10, 2008
Judging Hurts
Judging Hurts?If you are planning to be a lawyer or you are one,you can skip this post.Judging is quite scary.
Judging:
somebody giving an informed opinion: somebody who has an ability to assess quality or give an informed opinion in a particular area of knowledge or experience
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To form an opinion or estimation of after careful consideration
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For me,judging is simply rough guesses about someone but does it hurts?Let say you have a friend who is not well liked by other people but you do not know him personally.
Maybe he came to you and said in the manner that you do not like,"Hey,do I know you?"You looked at him and you tried to guess who he really is.
You tell yourself,he sounds proud and I think that he is proud.Not only that,I heard people saying this person is proud too.Therefore,I guess that he is proud.
That is just a common case of daily judging.Why does judging hurts?
1. You can see in this case that it is influenced by other people's opinion.(Including those who do not like the person.)
2. It is based on first impression,which is normally not accurate.
I have a personal experience with this before.I was playing Gunbound at that time and I am really noob at it.There was a time that I come and play with this friend of my buddy in a team battle.
Then I was like misfiring for the most of the time and the word that I dreaded came."Noob!" and I was not quite happy at this.As time goes by,I come to know this guy who is the friend of my buddy through soccer and the one who said that I was noob.
At that time,I was like trying hard(haha) not to observe him because the way he communicate was simply proud.(maybe he said that I play so noob again.)If I judge him,I think that we would surely not be friends.(anyway,he really changed a lot and he really a nice guy.)
Source:
http://www.legaljuice.com/judge.jpg