Thursday, September 11, 2008
Intimacy
Intimacy is determined by these factors which are 1.Understanding of each other
2. Attention to and fro
3. Communication between each other
My understanding here is more of the deep knowledge. Student A says that F= ma is force is equal to the mass times acceleration. Student B further explains why the formula is applied like this. So we can say that Student A knows that F=ma but Student B understands F=ma.
Close friends understand each other well not because they know each other’s name or birthday. But it is because they know far more than these aspects. It may be something like personality, character and background.
Attention is also important because if you do not give any attention to someone, which is also means that you do not spend time with him, the relationship will naturally grow cold. But you will ask me why to and fro?
Friend A has a lot of friends and rarely spends time on Friend B. Friend B has no other friends except Friend A therefore he spent most of his attention on Friend A. Eventually, Friend B will say something like this, “Why should I spend so much time on him?” Therefore the relationship will grow colder and it may end.
Communication is somehow of attention when you give attention to someone, you normally talk to him. But I would be saying more of how you communicate to each other. Some people are more sensitive to sarcasm and criticism. There are a lot of people who loves to pour sarcasm and mockery to these fellows without the intent to hurt the person.
Even close friends may be separated because they have enough of their mockery.
Source:
http://www.foundationsforfreedom.net/Topics/Marriage/Great_Marriage/res/08/Developing_Intimacy.gif